Anger is that ‘strong feeling’ of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility. It is according to experts, a natural, though sometimes unwanted or irrational, emotion that everybody experiences from time to time.
It’s an emotion that everyone have to deal with for no-one will go through life without experiencing some form of anger but the rule of thumb is, ‘ensure’ it does not get you down to your knees! Understand it’s cause and take steps to deal with it.
Common triggers to anger:
- Grief and/or sadness, loss of a family member, friend or other loved one.
- Rudeness, poor interpersonal skills and/or poor service.
- Tiredness, since people may have shorter tempers and be more irritable when tired.
- Injustice: for example infidelity, being bullied, humiliated or embarrassed, or being told that you, or a loved one, has a serious illness.
- Sexual frustration.
- Money problems and the stress associated with debt.
- Some forms of stress, unrealistic deadlines and things beyond our immediate control such as being stuck in traffic.
- A feeling of failure or disappointment.
- Becoming angry as a result of taking drugs or alcohol, or when withdrawing from such substances.
- Having a crime committed against you or a loved one: theft, violence, sexual offences but also more minor things such as a feeling of being treated inappropriately.
- Being either physical or mentally unwell, being in pain or living with a serious illness can lead to feeling angry.
Dealing with Anger:
The number one thing I’d like to recommend is, Listen to Music: Put on your mobile device or your home theater, plug in your headphones and dance away the sapping energy where
if possible no one will see you. You may also sing to yourself if this seem effective.
Secondly, Write it Down: poetry or journal will work. Yes, it will work when you get your feelings on paper.
Thirdly, you may consider Drawing it or scribble it: that is if you do not feel like writing a long piece, just draw or sketch your angry feelings.
Fourthly, you should engage in a sport or work out: at least, being physical will work out the anger right out of you as you do.
For the fifth part, Meditate/ breath:
meditation or some breathing exercise works quite for me personally especially that of breathing exercise. If you stay focused on a particular breathing pattern and thinking about how you are breathing will help in controlling
the anger in you.
Otherwise, Talk to someone: It’s most likely sometimes our anger are caused by other feelings. Find out about this by talking to someone to get your feelings out in the open.
Lastly, Distract yourself: Yes, take your mind away a little bit by subjecting yourself in thinking about something else – try to force yourself to think about
something else other than what is causing your anger.
You might want to consider these too: RELAX: Anger is an emotion everyone have to deal with.
THINK: Whatever the outcome of your anger with anyone, ask yourself if it will be of benefit to you or the other person.
COMMUNICATE: Talk, don’t hit the other person and refrain from yelling as you talk.
TRY TO LAUGH: Laughter will do you a lot good. If your face is frowned, try to force a laugh to convince yourself that you are not angry but at ease.
CHANGE YOUR ENVIRONMENT: -If Changing of environment is a game changer. If you’ve tried every possible trick, try to change the environment to get away from that which is causing you some anger – let yourself out!
“Anger is only a shorter version of DANGER!”